Wednesday, October 31, 2012

I have to admit that I don't understand why some normally reasonable people have such an issue with gay marriage.  I am a woman who believes in marriage.  I have been married 39 years and am very proud of the loving relationship that my husband and I have.  Most people I talk to believe that marriage is a wonderful way to show a commitment to love and care for each other through the good and the bad.  So, why isn't this a good thing for everyone?  Why should it matter who your partner is?

I don't usually write in my blog about political issues, but this is one that is very important to me; and I am very puzzled about the attitudes of those portrayed in the commercials we are seeing on TV.  I wonder how they developed the opinion that gay marriage is so wrong.  I can only believe that they are ignorant and have never been blessed with experiences that would change these intolerant views.  I have many friends and family who are in the GLBT community. I have seen the love that they have for one another.  The commitment that they have for their partners is exemplary.  While I believe that I am a tolerant, accepting person to begin with, I know that my friendships with these wonderful friends have helped me understand the issues that they face in our society.

Not too long ago, I backed a film on Kickstarter called Bridegroom: An American Love Story.  This documentary tells the story of a gay couple and the terrible saga of what happened to the surviving member when one died.  He was denied so many rights that would have been afforded if gay marriage had been recognized.  It is a compelling story that explains why gay marriage must be embraced by our society.  I encourage all of you to view their story.  So many are not allowed to support their partners through illness and their children's welfare is often put at risk.  This is a true tragedy.  

I cannot imagine how I would have survived some of the things in my life if my husband did not have the legal rights afforded to him through marriage.  I shudder to think of what this would have done to our children if he hadn't had the rights to support, care for, and guide them under the law as a parent.  Who are we to deny these rights to others?

We are America!  Our country has been built on accepting those who are different from us.  It is true that we have had to fight for it at times.  Many immigrants from different countries and cultures have learned how to get along.  Those of us who are my age remember the Civil Rights struggles and the fight to overturn laws against interracial marriage.  We are a proud country and have to continue the fight to ensure that ALL people have the same rights.  The right to marry the person you love is a right-not a privilege.  We cannot deny this right to anyone!  So join the fight, and vote No on the amendment next week. Embrace the joy of tolerance, acceptance, and human compassion.

Have you found your joy today?


  1. I hate this amendment. It's like we're being told love is wrong. I don't know how anyone could agree with that.

    I have more than a few gay friends, and here are a few observations I've had:

    *They are tireless, contributors to their communities. Much more so than other people I know.

    *They are deeply committed to their partners, and those who are raising children are exemplary parents.

    *They all pay taxes, just like everyone else.

    It's insane that they are denied basic rights that the rest of us have.

    One friend in particular has undergone a serious medical ordeal after being diagnosed with colon cancer after a routine colonoscopy. He had to endure several major surgeries, including an ileostomy, which took months of recovery. On several different occasions his condition took a substantial decline, and of course his partner was not able to have any say when it came time to make decisions.

    I believe everyone, if in the same scenario, would want the person who knows them better than anyone else to have the power to direct their care and well being.

    This amendment must not pass.

    -Gina J.

    1. I totally agree! This is so important. I will be so disappointed in this state if it does pass.