Monday, April 23, 2012

Are Your Mondays Like a Math Problem?

Have you noticed that Facebook is filled with moans and groans about Mondays?  It is very rare for a Monday to pass without a reference to how difficult Mondays are.  I know that I contributed my share of comments on Facebook when I was particularly stressed about Mondays, because I used to feel the same when I was working.  I hated Mondays!  As someone whose natural body rhythm makes me LOVE late nights and HATE early morning, I always stayed up too late on Sunday nights to try to eke out every last minute of my weekend.  The result was that I was so-o-o tired on Monday mornings.  At times, I felt like I needed an IV of coffee to jump-start my day.  What made it even worse was the fact that I always had an afternoon full of meetings every single Monday.  It was torture!  I felt like I could handle the rest of the week with ease if I could Just. Get. Through. Monday.

Now that I'm retired, I have done a 180 on Mondays.  I LOVE Mondays!  There are many reasons for this change of view.

  1. The most obvious is one that work-at-home moms have known for years.  Everyone goes back to work/school, and it is so quiet!  As much as I love my family, I relish the "me time" that faces me every Monday.  My time is my own on Mondays, and I've given myself permission to be lazy that day if I want.  Sometimes I need the day to recover from the hectic events of the weekend.  I read books and the newspaper, listen to my  music, catch up on TV shows that I missed, watch the birds at the feeder, drink my coffee in peace...whatever I want to do!
  2. I also have a sense of optimism on Mondays!  While I have things that I need to accomplish during the week, I have four other days to get them done.  Anything I finish on Monday gives me a great sense of accomplishment because it's something I wanted to do-not something I HAD to do.  Anything I didn't get done: no problem!  I have 4 other days to get them done before the weekend is here.
  3. I make a point of not setting appointments or scheduling anything on Mondays.  There is something psychologically satisfying about knowing that you don't have a schedule to follow for at least one day every week.  Doctor appointments can occur on a different day of the week.  Social engagements, such as lunches with friends which I thoroughly enjoy, can happen another day.  This is my unscheduled day to experience as it unfolds.

I know that I am very fortunate to have the opportunity to view Mondays differently now that I am retired.  It is very freeing!  I hope that you, too, can find a way to embrace your Mondays.  After all, they are just another day of the week.  You can take charge of them if you want and change their impact on your daily life.  I know, I know.  It's easy to say that; harder to do.  So, here are some ideas you may want to try to make your Mondays more enjoyable:

  • If you have a gamer in your house, you have probably heard about the online game, StarCraft!  There is a commentator for StarCraft competitions named Day9.  Every Monday he releases "Funday Monday" for view online.  While I do not play StarCraft, I love to watch Day9.  He is so entertaining.  Just thinking about his videos brings a smile to my face. Visit Day(9)TV at if you want to check him out.  He will make you laugh!
  • I find that my weekend can get really busy, and I miss news about what's going on in the world.  If you are a news junkie, you may want to try to catch up on what's happening around you.  It's a quick, fun way to get back in touch.
  • Visit a local coffeehouse on your way to work or on your way home to treat yourself.  If you are lucky enough to live in Northfield, MN, visit the Goodbye Blue Monday Coffee House.
  • Just STOP!  Take a moment for you.  Enjoy the world around you whether it is the sunrise on your way into work, the sun shining in your moon roof, the breeze coming in your window during your drive, the music blasting from your car, your child's smile as you come in the door, or any form of nature that you encounter during your day.
These are just a few ideas for you.  You probably have many more to offer that work for you.  Feel free to share them if you'd like.  Bottom line: I hope that you can find a way to make this Monday, and all of those in your future, more palatable.  It has taken me 34 years of working to reach the point where I embrace Mondays and thoroughly enjoy them.  My hope is that you will arrive here one day, too.  In the meantime...

Have you found your joy today?